Monday, March 19, 2007

Feeling philosophical....

This past weekend, the sweetie man, my son, and his gal pal spent time together talking alot about different things....how you feel at different stages of your life...how your past affects your future...how people in your life affect how you feel. It was quite interesting...two people in their fifties and two college age kids. Sometimes I just shook my head thinking, wow, you've got a lot to learn. And likewise, had it been the sweetie man and I talking to an 80 year couple, I'm sure they would shake their heads and say the same to us.
We talked alot about what is important in life to each of us....that was probably the most amazing aspect to me....how much you change through the years on what is important to you. I could write at length about what each person said but everyone is so different in their views. I also believe you are ALLOWED to change your views as well as your likes/dislikes....this part irks me a bit, because in my past, as I did change, I always heard my ex say, "you didn't used to like that...you only like that now because so and so likes it....you're being brainwashed", etc.... It was as if it were wrong to change...change is good....I was afraid to change for awhile and that is sad. No one should be afraid of change...of learning new things, enjoying new experiences....tossing the old ideas and bringing in fresh new ones.
I have to tell you that one big thing I changed is my love of dogs. I thought I was strictly a cat person. We had dogs when we were little but we weren't really as involved with them...they were outside and that was it. I still love cats and actually all animals, but there is something about dogs that has just tugged on my heart.....cats and dogs both can teach us so much about life if you watch and listen to them. God definately put them here for a reason and I'm really starting to see it. Sometimes I think to myself that I could just hear my ex saying, " you didn't used to like dogs" as though it were wrong for me to have this incredible attachment to them....but you know what....maybe I did love them all along and all the muck and mud that was put on me or that I took in from people in my life is being washed away....and as I get older I'm realizing what truly is important to me...what truly gives me happiness.
Anyway, on that note, take a moment and enjoy this little clip that was sent to me....(and turn on the sound for a nice effect) DO YOU REMEMBER LOVE
Enjoy, yinz crazy, guys.....(and thanks for listening)

12 Comments:

Bloggin' Out Loud said...

Maybe it's because I get this way every single time we part, but watching the video had me sort of misty, and I'm not ashamed to admit it, because you have shown me how to find true happiness, you've shared yours with me and accepted mine with the grace and joy that I will remember long after the precious moments we have left together on this Earth, until we meet in the next whatever. I LOVE YOU!

Michelle-ozark crafter said...

I love this post my dear. Thanks for writing it!

stitcherw said...

Lovely post, it makes you think. We do have to change as we get older, otherwise we will be miserable always wanting things the way they were. Also, change is growth, unless you try you really don't know. As to pets, you're right, we can learn a lot from them, about what is important, enjoying life, and acceptance of things (and people).
Sue

sydney said...

Good post! Change is good! Life changes and it's much more pleasant if you change with it.

Sue said...

Aww, beautiful! We should all be true to ourselves while we learn and grow. Thanks for sharing a lovely post. <3

Kare said...

Oh, the first comment... How sweet. How wonderful!!

I love this post, Lucy. Change happens because or learning, experiencing, living, knowledge..To never change would be downright sad.

Mimi said...

Thanks for sharing, Lucy ;)

ollie1976 said...

Thanks for sharing some deeper thoughts. Change is difficult for a lot of people. Glad that you had the chance to speak with your son like this and have been able to see how far you've come!

Alexis said...

I love how free your spirit is now. I think it is sad that it was squashed for all those years. Plus, I know I've changed and now we are crafting buddies:) What more could a niece ask for!

Dipsy said...

What a very thoughtful and inspiring post! I agree, sometimes we can learn a lot from the young - but then again, it's good to be a bit older and having made all the experiences that the young ones yet have to make. And I agree with Alexis, I also really love how your freed your spirit and feel so good these days - yay for that!

andi said...

Lovely post Lucy! I loved the video too. I think it's true the older we get the more 'softer' we are towards some things we've rejected in the past. As far as lima beans go... well that may never change for me. (yuck). LOL

sally said...

Lucy, Alexis said it well. You were stiffled for many years by your ex. I remembering haveing conversations with Diane and saying it was so sad that you were not allowed to enjoy life like you wanted. Glad your life has changed for the for the better. These years are precious and we need to enjoy every minute of them. tgif for sweetie man helping you see the light.